This is how I want to live my life with our kids. I don’t want to have many regrets when they leave home. I know I will have some regrets about losing my temper or making the wrong decision here or there but I don’t want to regret not doing enough or being there enough for them. I want to be the Vince Lombardi of mamas. I want to make sure I “leave no regrets on the field.”
There are times when I want to give up. I get tired. I get cranky. I want to abdicate my authority. “Just do whatever you want,” I sometimes feel like saying. There are times when I want to run away. Life becomes tricky and the kids gets nasty. The Bahamas sound great! When is the next flight out? I know these times are going to become more and more frequent as Lucas and then Claire become teenagers. Zach is already a teenager and while he is a fairly mellow kid, at this point, I know we will have tough times ahead. It is part of the growing up process. All kids need to establish independence from their parents. It will be these upcoming times when I will need to buckle down even harder and reinforce to myself my No Regrets way of living my life. It is when the kids are getting ready to spread their wings I will need to be there even more. It will be these times they remember as they leave home. Their memories of being rocked, read to and soothed will be replaced by whatever choices I make in these next vital years. I can’t give into wanting to give up. I can’t run away.
I love Vince Lombardi’s book “What It Takes To Be Number One.” I can apply it to so many areas of life. I can apply it to my kids and help them see with hard work, perseverance and a positive attitude they can be or do whatever they want in life. In his book he says “You’ve got to be smart to be number one in any business. But more importantly, you’ve got to play with your heart, with every fiber of your body. If you’re lucky enough to find a guy with a lot of head and a lot of heart, he’s never going to come off the field second.” This is what I want my kids to understand. I want them to play through life with every fiber of their bodies. I can also apply his nuggets of wisdom to myself as well. Lombardi’s book helps me remember to leave no regrets, not just in being a mama but in all aspects of my life. I can open his book and immediately find something to inspire me. One of my favorite lines of Lombardi’s is “If you don’t think you are a winner, you don’t belong here.”
With this in mind I am off to leave no regrets. I am off to be the Vince Lombardi of Mamas…for the love of my children!